My older brother and I recently had a discussion about school journals that were a part of our reading program at school in New Zealand all those years ago. He reminded me about a story that had made a huge impact on him called The Weather Rope. Perhaps it was the fact that we grew up in a farming community where the weather was always a topic of discussion "We need rain." Or "Wish it would stop raining so we can get the hay in." Perhaps it was the possibility of being able to control things over which we had no control.
The story told of a community that discovered a weather rope that hung from the sky. All one had to do was to go and pull on the rope to get a change in the weather. If the community wanted rain then the rope was pulled and hey presto there was rain. Then if the rain was sufficient for the grass to grow, the rope was pulled again and there was the sunshine to dry up all the puddles.
This all went along very well until people started to disagree with what they wanted. Some wanted it to stop raining so they could go to the beach. Others wanted wind to dry the washing. The gardeners wanted the wind to stop so that the roses would not be blown away. The arguments began and people were pulling the rope so often and so hard to get what they wanted, that the suddenly the rope fell out of the sky. People could not longer get what they wanted.
This is so true in life. People have different wants. We know that we are driven by what we want to match our Quality World pictures. Our choices in behaving to get what we want may result, as in the story, in none of us getting what we want.
I have a favourite cartoon which depicts two characters in a stand off, each with a rolled up magazine ready to strike . The caption says "No way. I'll put my magazine down when you put yours down."
I think if we both lay down 'our magazines' and negotiated, listened, supported- all the connecting habits, we would not lose our 'weather rope' and be more likely to both get what we want.
In the words of the Irish Blessing...